The Powerful Control Core Beliefs have over why we Self-Sabotage

This post was written by Rhonda Wasserman

Original content by Ashley Berges

What is your choice of self-sabotage? Self-sabotage can be a conscious or unconscious action. We can be aware of our decision or we can be unaware of what we are doing. Therefore, these choices and decisions can sabotage and hurt us. 

Often, we are unable to see the patterns in our lives. There are certain areas in our lives and specific choices that we make that are repetitive for self-sabotage.

Is something not working in your life that you cannot get past? We may be making choices of self-sabotage, such as procrastination, perfectionism, self-medicating, or choosing the wrong friends daily. Additionally, our choices, either direct or indirect, keep us stuck in the self-sabotaging pattern. 

When it comes to self-sabotage, our core beliefs play a big role in what we do. We need to understand what is the core belief that causes us to continue to stay in these patterns and create our reality.

Look at the people you bring into your life. Do you find that you always seem to have people around you that need help or saving? This may cause you to ask yourself, why do all your friends need saving? Why does it feel like you are always giving advice and helping others? It may be time to look deeper into your core beliefs. They may help explain why you are selecting certain types of people in your life.

Another key idea to look at when we are dealing with self-sabotage is our core beliefs based on self-esteem, self-worth, and self-image. We need to dig into our core beliefs and understand how they affect our self-sabotaging behaviors. The core beliefs have been with us since we were very young. We believe that our core beliefs are true and our actions are based on these beliefs. There are many levels to explaining why we do what we do.  We just don’t say hey I am going to self-sabotage today. We have many deep seeded reasons why we self-sabotage, although, most often, self-sabotage is based on core beliefs.

It is important to be able to identify the thoughts in our minds and be able to catch self-sabotaging thoughts before they are put into action. It is most helpful that when you are self-sabotaging, you can catch and identify the core beliefs that are causing you to feel and act the way you do.

Most often, our core beliefs are hidden in our day-to-day lives. If we can start analyzing these core beliefs, especially when we are about to do a self-sabotaging act, we can then ask ourselves why we are making this choice, and why are we going down this path. This can be both an inspirational and an eye-opening experience, helping us become more self-aware.

We need to look at self-sabotage as it is occurring, to begin to understand why we are doing it. When we feel as though we are amid self-sabotage, ask yourself why are you putting yourself in this position, why did you make this choice, and why are you choosing something that gets in the way of your success? This will help you find clarity and understanding.

Take some time to become more aware of why you may be self-sabotaging. Once we can see what we are doing, we will then be able to begin to change it.

Watch the video below to learn more about core beliefs and self-sabotaging behaviors.

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