Many of us grew up in family dynamics where one or both parents may have had borderline personality disorder or narcissistic personality disorder signs and symptoms. Lacking a clear blueprint and unaware of how others were raised, we assume everyone else had the same experiences.One of the most significant effects of this family dynamic is the constant effort to gain our parents' acceptance and approval. When we are young, we try to get good grades, get on the sports team, or be on the debate team. A lot of it was for personal gratification but...