If you’ve ever tried to talk to someone about something that hurt you and somehow ended up apologizing instead, there’s a reason that feels so disorienting. You raise a concern, the conversation shifts, emotions escalate, and you walk away feeling confused, guilty, or ashamed. This isn’t normal conflict. It’s not miscommunication. And it’s not two people simply seeing things differently. This pattern is called DARVO, and it’s one of the most damaging dynamics in unhealthy relationships.DARVO is a manipulation and defense pattern that protects one person from accountability by shifting the blame onto the other person....