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What is Regret? A Deep Dive into it’s Meaning

Written by Ashley Berges

Original content by Ashley Berges

March 27, 2012


What is regret?

 

Regret is a verb defined as: to feel sad, repentant, or disappointed over (something that has happened or been done, esp. a loss or missed opportunity).

Synonyms for regret: verb: repent, mourn, be sorry, lament, and rue.

Noun synonyms: repentance, remorse, sorrow, grief, and contrition.

 

How does regret feel?

 

The feeling of regretting something is a million times worse than regret’s toughest definition.  When we think of all the opportunities we missed, that empty pit of your stomach feeling tends to be difficult to get rid of. 

Regret tends to stay with us no matter how long ago the missed opportunity took place.  In order to get mentally and emotionally past previous regret, we must stop the cycle of regret and seize present opportunities, as they come, not waiting or wavering.

There are three techniques that people use after suffering a blow due to regret, and only one is beneficial and successful to overcome the past regret and further more to create lasting happiness in your life.

 

Technique #1:  Avoid all opportunities and continue to beat your self up mentally.

 

Many people use this technique because it is easy to get in the mindset that you are stupid, an idiot, etc.  When opportunities are lost we tend to get down on ourselves, creating a negative thought process. 

Positive advancement can’t come to anyone that is in a negative headspace.  If you find yourself using this technique, start paying attention to your thoughts.  When you hear your thoughts turning negative, look at those thoughts, laugh, and let them go. 

For most people, your worst enemy is yourself.  You know how to push all of your buttons and you know how to make it hurt.  Begin implementing positive thoughts throughout your day, read an uplifting book, listen to beautiful music, and spend time with others that are positive.  By doing these activities and living within the positive thoughtful realm, opportunities will come and you will benefit because you are surrounding yourself with it and able to see it clearly without the negative haze. 

When we are thinking and living in a negative headspace, we can’t see the forest through the trees.  Even if the best opportunity is right next to you, you won’t see it.  (Remove the negative thought, replace with positive thought, and happiness will be produced.)