How to Know when you are being Cheated on?

This post was written by Rhonda Wasserman

Original content by Ashley Berges

Cheating is the act of being dishonest or unfair in a relationship, being unfaithful to your partner, or breaking a promise of a commitment.  

Do you wonder if your partner is cheating on you?  There are red flags to look for that may indicate that someone is cheating on you.    

Emotional Distancing

You feel distant from your partner.  You notice that they seem emotionally distant from you.  This distance is usually because your partner is thinking about someone else.  You can feel this separation happening.  They seem to be cold, rigid, and not paying much attention to you.  As a result of this, you feel emotional distance but are not sure why it is happening.   

Extreme Frequent Texting Day and Night

Your significant other is constantly on their phone texting.  This appears to be a change from the way they used to be.  This can be a major red flag.  You may be wondering, what has happened that is causing them to be texting all the time?  

 Possessiveness and Secrecy around the Phone

If your significant other has never been secretive or possessive of their phone but has now become that way, this may be cause for concern.  They do not let it out of their sight, always keeping it in their hand, pocket, or purse.  Odds are something is on their phone that they do not want you to see.  This behavior is another red flag.

They Accuse you of Cheating

To take the pressure off them, your partner may accuse you of cheating.  On the flip side, if you are the one cheating you assume everyone cheats.  Accusing your partner will put them on the defensive.  Your partner will be thinking about what is wrong with them and how to prove they are not the one cheating.  This technique is to avoid the real issue, which is that they are cheating on you.  

They become Hyper-Critical of you

Your partner finds fault in you when they previously did not.  They point out things that they feel you are doing wrong.  This enables them to find faults to end the relationship.  As a result, they feel that they are right and the relationship was having problems.  

They Keep Strict Tabs on you

Your partner wants to know where you are, what you are doing, what is your work schedule, and when you will be home.  This could be an indication of a very controlling person, but most likely it is because they are cheating on you.  Your partner does not want to run into you or have you catch them in the act so they want to know where you are always.  

They Take a Big Interest in their Outward Appearance

Going to the gym, working out, and a strict diet may mean they are cheating on you if this is something new for them, although there is a chance they have decided to do these things for themselves.  Often, this change occurs because there is someone else they are interested in and they want to look their best for them.

These indications by themselves most likely do not mean anything.  It’s when combined, that these indications are a pretty good sign that something is going on.  It may either be a sexual relationship or an emotional one.  Most likely your partner is having a relationship with someone and it’s not you. 

 Cheating occurs for various reasons.  People can be sex addicts, want to get even, or just like the idea of being with another person.  Whatever the reason is behind the cheating, most likely it is something within your significant other. 

 If you start to see these red flags in your relationship, it is time to take a step back and assess the situation.  A calm conversation with your significant other to let them know what you have observed in hopes of them telling you the truth about what is going on would be a good option to take at this point.  Once you have had this discussion it is up to you to decide the direction you want to go with the relationship from this point forward.

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