Are you creating your own roadblock in your life? What are these roadblocks in your life that are standing in your way? Sometimes, other people’s actions may cause us harm or roadblocks. Often, our biggest setbacks and roadblocks are created by ourselves. We can be our own toughest critic. Because we are our toughest critics, it causes us to stand in our way of success.
There are three ways that we block our progress and create roadblocks in our lives.
The first thing we do is use limiting language. Limiting language is how we talk to ourselves. It is when we tell ourselves we are unable to fulfill a goal, desire, or dream that we have. We tell ourselves we cannot accomplish what we want, it will never happen, and we are not good enough to do it. We believe everyone else is better and smarter than we are.
We have all been there. We have to watch our limiting language because it can sneak in when we are not paying attention. This is the first line of defense against our subconscious creating roadblocks.
The second thing that we do to create roadblocks is to use negative self-talk, which then filters into our brains. This goes past our conscious brain and seeps into our subconscious brain. This is where it stays forever. It causes us to think in certain ways. Because this makes us feel we can’t do something, we begin to act on those thoughts subconsciously. This then results in us becoming our roadblock. We do not need to worry about other people getting in our way, we get in our way by ourselves. We fall on our own without help from anyone else.
The third thing we do, coupled with negative self-talk and our subconscious mind, is that we have little confidence and faith in our ability to carry out our plans and our goals. We often look to others to help us out, but they can’t. We cannot go outside of ourselves for real help. If we are trying to do something like quitting smoking, we can find an accountability partner. We can’t depend solely on the accountability partner. If we did, it would become codependence, and in a codependent relationship, we are unable to stand on our own.
How do we stop creating these roadblocks in our lives and move on?
The best thing that we can do right now is to realize when we begin to talk negatively about ourselves. This is the first line of defense when we catch that. When you begin to hear, I can’t, I won’t, this is when you need to realize it is happening right now.
You must begin to try and stop these thoughts. The best way to stop them is to neutralize them. We need to hear or visualize the comment and let it go. Every time a negative self-thought comes into your mind, acknowledge it, realize it, and let it go.
Eventually, you are not turning it into total positivity, but you are neutralizing these thoughts and realizing them every time they come into your mind. What happens is that you set up fewer roadblocks, and you begin to realize that sometimes our enemy is ourselves.
Remember, begin to have that love and respect and understand that a lot of time, self-talk is creating insecurity and undermining who we truly are. We are all amazing people, and we all have unique gifts and qualities that no one else has.
Once we begin to realize this and neutralize the negative self-talk, we can recognize the self-talk and work to understand where it comes from. We can also work to lose the negative self-talk all the way around. When you hear the negative self-talk, let it go, remind yourself of how great you are, and allow your unique qualities to shine.