How to Identify a Narcissist on Dating Apps.

This post was written by Rhonda Wasserman

Original content by Ashley Berges

It is important to be able to identify narcissists on dating apps. 

6 Indications that the Person on the Dating App is a Narcissist.

The first indication is a sneaky one. The person will claim to be kind, compassionate, and caring. We all want someone to possess all those traits, however, who would write that about themselves or even say it? This should be seen as a huge red flag. Most likely people who are compassionate, kind, and caring do not go around saying that to others. 

Another indication is the pictures that the person has on their profile. We can learn a lot from the pictures people post. Even though the person’s bio contains a lot of information about them, the images are what really convey the tales. Someone could say that they are a “down-to-earth person.” When we look at their pictures there could be an obvious photo shoot in front of a private jet.

It does not appear that those types of photos would match the “down-to-earth” description of themselves. Another example would be someone looking for a serious relationship, someone to settle down with. When we look at the pictures, they are of the person partying on boats with massive amounts of barely clothed women. Does this look like a person wanting to settle down in a serious relationship? It looks like the person is saying one thing but showing the exact opposite. 

The third indication that you are dealing with a narcissist on a dating app is that they ask a lot of personal and invasive questions on a phone call or first date. The questions they are asking feel very personal, causing you to feel weird about giving answers to them, even though you feel like you must answer. There are a lot of red flags with this type of questioning. This line of questioning can be a trap. Often the answers given to these questions can be turned around and used against you. 

The fourth indication is love bombing. Love bombing is usually done with compliments, text messages, and a lot of communication at the very beginning of the relationship. Love bombing can feel good but it can come on fast and very strong. If you are feeling uncomfortable about the amount of communication or pressure the person is putting on you, you are most likely dealing with some love bombing.

A fifth indication is that people who have more narcissistic tendencies are into more casual sex than others. The reason for this is partly criticism, partly rejection, partly ego, a need to satisfy a void, and trying to get their supply.

The narcissist will choose sexual partners that are easy to get, flatter them, look up to them, and give them compliments. This is because it helps the narcissist’s ego. This is a real indication that you are dealing with a narcissist on a dating app. It’s good to be aware that they may be seeing many different people and having casual sex with multiple people to increase their ego and make them feel better about themselves. 

The last indication is there is more likelihood that a narcissist will ghost you, cut you out, or stop all communication without any warning. They have a higher indication of doing this because of multiple reasons.

First, they have trouble connecting with their feeling and emotions. Secondly, they have a tendency not to have empathy. They are not able to empathize with something you may be going through. A narcissist does not care how you would feel if they just cut you out. They are always looking for a bigger better deal.

If you are dealing with being cut out or shut out of the relationship, you are most likely dealing with someone who is unable to process their emotions and has narcissistic tendencies. 

These tips are meant to help someone identify when they may be dealing with a narcissist on a dating app. Dating is a journey and we are learning about ourselves as well as we want to meet someone that is going to respect and love us just like we will do the same for them. 

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