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How it Starts, the Relationship between the Co-Dependent and the Borderline

Original content by Ashley Berges The relationship begins extremely fast between a co-dependent person and someone exhibiting signs and symptoms of borderline personality disorder (BPD).The couple spends enormous amounts of time together. During this time, they learn a lot about each other. The beginning starts like a fairy tale, doing things that most likely are […]

What it Feels Like to Have a Fear of Abandonment

Original content by Ashley Berges Many factors are involved when it comes to a fear of abandonment and bpd. It can be very helpful to understand it and be able to identify the signs and symptoms of the fear. One of the first indications of a fear of abandonment is that the person does not […]

Be Careful What You Tell the Narcissist

Original content by Ashley Berges Many people believe that narcissists do not ask questions because they are self-centered, but this is not an accurate belief. We need to learn how to safeguard ourselves when narcissists ask invasive and personal questions.  Often, we believe that narcissists do not ask questions. Contrary to belief, narcissists do ask […]

5 Shocking Facts about The Silent Treatment

Original content by Ashley Berges Have you ever been on the receiving end of the silent treatment? It can be an extremely sad and an unpleasant place to be. Let’s expose 5 facts about the silent treatment that you may not be aware of. 1. The silent treatment is a passive-aggressive form of emotional abuse. […]

Are you Walking on Eggshells in your Relationship?

Original content by Ashley Berges Does it feel like you are walking on eggshells in your relationship? Often, we are in a relationship that feels like an emotional blender. We do not know what is going to happen next in the relationship. It feels like when we expect the worst, it’s the best, and when […]

Toxic Relationships, Co-Dependency, and a Loss of Identity

Original content by Ashley Berges Do you know that many of us are raised to value ourselves based on doing things for other people? This gives us value rather than finding our value from within. Hence, this belief leads us to have toxic cycles, creating co-dependency, and continuing down a path of identity loss. Many […]

What Does it Mean to Work on Yourself?

Original content by Ashley Berges Working on ourselves is something we should all take the time to do. But what does it mean to work on ourselves? To understand what it means to work on ourselves, first, we must think about the order in which we need to do it. Where do we begin when […]

Stop being Sucked into Other People’s Drama

Original content by Ashley Berges Have you ever been sucked into some else’s drama? Have they sucked you into their lives and issues? Before you realize it, you are dealing with all their issues that do not affect you. It’s time you figure out how to stop getting sucked into other people’s drama.  We often […]

Have they Really Changed? It is Real Change or Just Words?

Original content by Ashley Berges “I have changed”. Two words we hope to hear from our significant other. We want to believe these words, but are they for real? How can we be sure they have changed this time? What does it mean when someone makes real changes? Let’s look at some indications that prove […]

11 Red Flags to Look for when you Suspect you are Being Cheated on

Original content by Ashley Berges Let’s look at 11 signs that may indicate someone is cheating on you. We must keep in mind that one sign does not necessarily mean you are being cheated on. Most often it is a combination of these signs that indicate cheating. 1.  Emotional distancing or extremely attentive We usually see […]