When Someone Becomes your Main Purpose

Original content by Ashley Berges What happens when we derive our purpose from someone else?  When we put all of our time and energy into someone rather than ourselves, we lose our identity.  There are ten indications that reveal when we have placed our purpose on somebody else. You think about them constantly You divert all your […]

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How to Know when you are being Cheated on?

Original content by Ashley Berges Cheating is the act of being dishonest or unfair in a relationship, being unfaithful to your partner, or breaking a promise of a commitment.   Do you wonder if your partner is cheating on you?  There are red flags to look for that may indicate that someone is cheating on you.     Emotional […]

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How to Overcome the Pain after being Ghosted

Original content by Ashley Berges Ghosting is the practice of ending a personal relationship suddenly without an explanation or communication. If you recently had someone ghost you, most likely you are feeling confused, alone, abandon, and full of self-doubt.   There are tools that you can use to overcome these feelings when someone has ghosted you.  When […]

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The Effects of the Silent Treatment on Children

Original content by Ashley Berges The Silent treatment, when used with children has a long-lasting effect reaching into adulthood Many parents believe that the silent treatment is a good way to discipline their children.  It is not physical and it does not involve yelling and screaming.  Parents practice this because they think it’s the best option.  On the […]

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How to Identify a Toxic Relationship

Original content by Ashley Berges When in a toxic relationship you may look at your partner to determine if the relationship is indeed toxic.  In a toxic relationship, you do things, act certain ways, and question yourself about many aspects of the relationship. There are eight things you do when you are in a toxic relationship.  Once […]

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How to Disengage using the Gray Rock Method

Original content by Ashley Berges Plain, boring, non-descriptive, these words describe a gray rock.  Safeguarding yourself against narcissistic abuse, manipulators, and gas lighters by using the gray rock method is a very useful and effective technique.   Gray rocking is the ability to make yourself not interesting to someone else.  It gives you the power to not reveal […]

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Do you Speak my Love Language?

Original content by Ashley Berges Everyone feels love differently. Understanding what love language you speak will be powerful. When we understand how we feel love, we can communicate that to others.  As a result, the people that are important in our lives learn how to love us the right way. Dr. Gary Chapman created the Five […]

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BPD + Co-Depedency = The Perfect Storm

Original content by Ashley Berges What makes a relationship toxic?  The word toxic seems to be a common word thrown around to describe turbulent relationships.  Toxicity in a relationship may be directly related to our inability to see someone else’s value.  Why are we not able to see someone else’s value? Most often there is an underlying […]

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How does Toxic Positivity make you Feel?

Original content by Ashley Berges Toxic positivity occurs unbeknownst to the user.  Can you recognize the difference between a positive person or someone who uses toxic positivity? Everything happens for a reason, just stay positive, and you can choose to be happy.  These are three comments often used by someone who has good intentions but is toxically […]

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Self-Sabotage in the Relationship

Original content by Ashley Berges Relationships can be both challenging and rewarding. When you are in a relationship with someone who self-sabotages the relationship, that person finds fault in everything their partner does.  They do this to justify leaving the relationship.  They are looking for problems in the other person.  This allows them to place the blame on their […]

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